On Fri, 13 Oct 2006 10:35:10 +0100, "Max" wrote:

"Fred" wrote in message
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Has there been a financial settlement indicating where assets and
possessions should go?

We were going through mediation to sort things out but she walked out after
a few sessions, so no agreement was made. She didn't ask for anything
afterwards, I think she was assuming she could ask later and I would give
her what she would ask for. But when she'd refused to contribute to a debt
from which she also benefited, but which is in my name only, I said that if
that is her attitude I would stop being reasonable.

If you're going against an order then you're not
very wise. However, typically it will say what ever is in your possession
at that time will belong to that person.

She had plenty of time (weeks) to take what she wanted, including her books,
CDs, whatever - which she did. I am not sure what she thinks she forgot but
if she is not prepared to be fair to me, then I don't see why I should be
fair to her.



You have my sympathy. It's not uncommon for them to keep remembering
something else they wished they had taken at the time. It could go on
for ever....

If she gives you a list of items, tell her that you have had a major
clearout of stuff that you didn't want any longer, and then dumped it.
But you will take a look to see if it's still around.

Then say later that you can't find it anywhere, and leave it at that.
What can she do?

good luck